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5 Self-Destructive Habits That Kill Your Opportunity for Success

Success can seem difficult enough with the obstacles the world throws at us. Unfortunately, many of us contend with personal habits the prevent us from reaching our goals as well. Below are some of the common habits that most battle and the efforts you can make to take control of them.

We are constantly dealing with a multitude of distractions vying for our attention. So regularly we bounce from one task to the next. Texting, emails, social media, to-do lists, work, relationships, etc…the list goes on and on.

“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” ― Winston S. Churchill

Silence the phone, create a time to stop checking and responding to emails, get rid of social media apps on your phone and set boundaries with work and relationships. Stop the racket of multitasking it’s not as effective as you think. Fractured attention typically gets us nowhere fast. A centralized focus and time set aside to pursue our dreams are essential to success.

“Most people think everybody feels about them much more violently than they actually do; they think other people’s opinions of them swing through great arcs of approval or disapproval.”― F. Scott Fitzgerald

Our craving for the confirmation of others is debilitating. We have to find our passion within ourselves and not the opinions of others. Those people aren’t doing what you’re doing and haven’t walked in your shoes. Also, we’re always under the impression the people are talking or thinking about us far more than they actually are. Keep your focus on the prize, approval is just another distraction.

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.” — Mark Twain

There will never be a perfect time. Perfect doesn’t exist and it’s an excuse to prevent failure. Unfortunately, with that mentality, you’ve failed because you never tried. I’ve learned throughout my life the best way to learn is to jump in and start. Yes, it’s not always pretty, but I learn, adapt, and improve with practice. You won’t perfect anything without practice and that takes putting yourself out there and trying.

The only person who can fully understand and believe in you is yourself. Love what you do and I believe it in. Your best shot in this life is to take your own side and start having confidence in the attributes you possess.

“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ― Louise L. Hay

Guilt and remorse are terrible burdens to put on yourself. Focus on your strengths and understand that you possess attributes that can propel you to success just like anyone else. Don’t get trapped in your head wondering if you’re good enough, it’s wasteful. Put in the effort and believe in yourself, you’ll be amazed at what you can do.

“Why is it that we don’t worry about a compass until we’re lost in a wilderness of our own making?”― Craig D. Lounsbrough

We’ve already talked about distraction, but if you don’t have a goal in mind then your dreams haven’t been fully formed. Take the time to figure out what you want. Keep your goal in mind and on your mind daily. One of the best tools I’ve used to stick to my plan and focus my attention on my goals is a daily planner. There are all sorts of planners on the market everything from basic to elaborate. I’ve used several and enjoyed success by visually seeing and writing down a plan for my day, week, and month to attack my goals. I’ve attached a link to share one of my favorites.

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